We are magnetic beings and the law of attraction is at work in all life, including each one of us. This law sees to it that all human souls can only draw into their orbit that which they themselves are. Wherever we may find ourselves at any given time, that is always the right place for us to be. We are there to integrate certain lessons and the world around us can be used to help us find out what they may be. The environment is designed to act like a mirror of our unconscious inner self. At all times it is trying to help us become more whole by reflecting our inner world back to us.

That is why we can only see in others what we ourselves are. Alas, rather than living our less pleasant traits out, in a psychological process known as projection we prefer to assign them to others, rather than owning up to them ourselves. The world around us is always a reflection of the good as well as the distasteful behaviour patterns of others, which in truth are also our own. Nobody has any problems when it comes to integrating and owning the good qualities that are on display in this way. But having to deal with the less desirable and endearing ones is another matter entirely. Irrespective of how objectionable any of them are, in the process of becoming more whole it is essential that we own up to them. Even if our psyche tries to hide them from our conscious awareness,  they are there nonetheless. This is proved by the fact that we can recognise them in others whilst failing to see in them in us.

If our energies and characteristics were not so similar to the ones of those who irritate and annoy us – including our nearest and dearest – we would never have drawn a relationship with them into our lives, because we would not have needed it. But, the way things have been thus far in our evolutionary plan of life, we most certainly do. For as long as we suffer intensely from the nastier character traces we observe in others, we are receiving signals from the Universe that the same is tucked away inside us, in our own subconscious, waiting to be released.

Human behaviour is not compulsive and each soul can and indeed must in due course learn to choose how to behave in any given situation. This is where our much cherished freedom of choice comes into the picture, and that is the only true freedom the human soul has, while it is held captive by its physical body. The way someone behaves and the choices they make reveal better than anything else the evolutionary level that person’s soul has reached thus far. This gives a clear picture to our guides and masters on the higher levels of life of how much we have up to now learnt to control and master the lower aspects of our nature. Most of all this reveals itself in all our relationships with our environment, especially our human contacts and within that framework in particular with our nearest and dearest. That is why each one of these connections is of the greatest importance to every soul.

There is nothing to be afraid of here. We have not been given free will for nothing; we must exercise it and choose in any situation how we wish to behave. Nobody has to act upon any bad or downright evil impulses; there is always a choice. It is up to us to resist the pull of our lower nature and rise above its instincts and urges. The characteristics we observe as unpleasant in those around us will only continue to annoy and irritate us for as long as the same ones are lurking in our own subconscious. I can think of no better way than asking God and the Angels to help me lift them into my conscious awareness, so I can accept and acknowledge them. This I follow by a response of a firm: ‘No!’ and ask that they should be released and their energies transmuted into wholesome and good ones. That in a nutshell is evolution. It is a process that demands constant changes from us and our world; that is why nothing ever remains the same.

It is possible to influence others and those on the healer’s pathway ensure to do this in positive ways only. Anyone who to this day believes they can change someone else is chasing an illusion, because that is impossible. In all human relationships projection is always at work. It is a normal part of human behaviour. Everybody does it, so let this not worry you. Next time you find yourself in troublesome relationships and situations, stop feeling bad about them or yourself. Bearing in mind that the only person in the whole wide world that can be changed by us is ourselves, do something constructive and positive and get to work, not on the people who are irritating you, but on yourself.

Whenever we have problems with others and want their behaviour towards us to change, we must first sweep in front of our own door. To find a resolution we have to look within and with utmost honesty examine our own mannerisms and deep seated inner attitudes. They are the culprits and the cause of all our difficulties. First we have to assess our problem, then our search for a solution can begin. This is a journey like any other that starts with the question: ‘Where am I now, where do I want to go and how can I get there?’

From 'The Dynamics Of Human Relationships And The Law Of Attraction’

With love and light,
Aquarius
 

Dear Journi,

Please accept my most sincere apologies for misunderstanding the situation. As far as your birth details are concerned, if you do not know the time of birth of either one of you, please let me at least have the name of the places where you drew the first breaths of your present lifetime.

With love – Aquarius

Dear Journi - I look forward to receiving them. It's a great pity you can't supply the times of birth as well. But never mind, I have come to some pretty poignant conclusions by now - even without time and places of birth. More soon.

With love - Aquarius

Dear Journi – today I have prepared some wisdom from the Moon for you. Please note that this is not a psychic reading but an interpretation of what is actually moving through your life, the way it is indeed written in the stars for you. In my view, there is a world of difference between the two. My readings are strictly not fortune telling or some kind of ‘fog-knitting’, as you will soon be able to verify from your own experiences, I hope.

                                                                                    Cancer Moon Progression

For approx. the past twenty-three months you have been going through a progression that is under the influence of Cancer, the Moon’s own sign. It will continue for you only for about another seven months. This progression is a time when we feel the characteristics of the Moon in our birthchart by sign and house placement much more strongly than usual and we gradually become ever more moody and emotional than we normally are. Regardless of our basic nature and outlook on life, during this time we are likely to act and react  towards people, things and situations far more from the emotional level. This can affect our lives in many different ways.

For example, you may become more interested in the private and personal aspects of your life. You are also likely to encounter more than your usual share of people who themselves are strongly under the influence of the Moon and Cancer. Home circumstances are playing a major part in one’s life. This could include moving house, building work, alterations, and home improvements, as well as decorating and investing in new furniture and fittings. This progression has such a strong domestic slant that it could temporarily be anchoring you quite firmly to home and family. You may have to take on more responsibility for relatives, in some way. Whether this is a source of comfort or an irritation to you, depends as much on your outer circumstances as it does on your inner attitudes. There will be more dealings with your mother, even if she has passed on already. If that is the case, you may feel the need to get in touch with her in the world of spirit, possibly to make peace with her. Most of your dealings will be with female friends and relatives, especially with older women and mothering types.

Feelings of family loyalty will now strengthen and you may wish to research your family’s background. It is a good time for finding your true home and roots, your inner ones, and you may feel like delving into your past. You could set off in search of your roots, and study subjects like genealogy, history, as well as antiques. Stronger than ever before, you feel the need to identify with a group and to find your own place within it. This could be based on family, race, religion or nationality, and you could even experience a surge of patriotic feelings.  

Frequently, you will feel the need to simply retreat from the outside world, and to sink into the comfort and security of your own home. You will probably have little desire to meet new people, but prefer to stay close to reliable old friends. You will enjoy new domestic interests and gadgets, learning how to use them in and around your home. You could work from home now or start your own small business from your own back room. You could get connected with shops in some way, for example by being offered a job in one or you could open one of your own. Whether you are male of female, one way or another, you will be getting far more concerned with day to day chores. The reason for this could be just about anything, including setting up a family or retirement.  

You could become unreasonably possessive towards the people around you. At times, you may feel alienated, neglected and superfluous, and you may find that your moods fluctuate between sometimes wanting to be alone, and the next moment fearing loneliness. This flood of feelings, in itself, is nothing to be over-concerned about, and no matter how troublesome this may sometimes be, ensure to remind yourself frequently that you are dealing with feelings only. They are sure to slip into the past, as soon as this progression is over. Being aware of what is operating inside you, should help you to cope with this progression more easily.

Friends will cling to you and you will hang onto them. People you have not seen for years could suddenly come back into your life. The influence of Cancer will make itself felt in many different ways and you will enjoy dealing with women more than usual. A child conceived, during this progression, is likely to be a girl. You could start working with liquids and may feel so strongly drawn to the sea that you wish to live or work on or near it. Travel on or over water will be particularly enjoyable.

This is a time for making slow and gradual changes. You will feel the need to spend time to look inside yourself, and to review your inner needs and attitudes. Old habits could be seen as inappropriate to your present and future life, and you may decide that it is time to shed them, once and for all. You could either be setting up a family or continuing to care for one. Whatever you do, you will feel the need to keep your feelings hidden from public view. If instead of suffering one wishes to benefit from the energies that are available at any given time, one needs to learn to use them wisely. This will not only stand us in good stead, but for the rest of this lifetime, but also beyond. There will be many opportunities for becoming more familiar with yourself and in touch with yourself, as well as for bringing your inner house in order.

You will now be so strongly influenced by the Moon that you could be feeling weepy and over-emotional, much of the time. This could be a considerable nuisance to you, especially if you are not usually the emotional type. For example, if you were born into one of the air signs, like Gemini, Libra and Aquarius, who normally function on the mental and intellectual level, rather than through the emotions, like the Water signs, Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces. You may feel so weepy that you and those around you could begin to wonder whether you might be ill. Rest assured, weepiness is part of this progression and there is nothing wrong with you. If you would like more information to help you cope better with the watery aspect of this progression, see the main part of your birthchart – if indeed you have one.

A word of warning may not come amiss here. Those who do not wish to be considered a nuisance by the world around them take care not to fall into the trap of acting out the downside of Cancer. Because of their extremely high emotional sensitivity, Cancerian’s feelings get hurt very easily. As a result, young and inexperienced souls can be in constant danger of wallowing in self-pity and on the lookout for a shoulder to cry and lean on, whilst being blissfully unaware of how trying this is for the world around them. It may also be helpful to become aware that Cancerians are known to be expert manipulators of people. Try to watch out in case you feel tempted to manipulate someone into things they do not want to do and that are not good for them.

Needless to say, that is not at all what this progression is about! Rather, it deals with home and mother, on the inner and the outer level. The fourth is probably the most deeply emotional one of them all and takes us into the depths of our inner being. The way I see it, its intention is to create opportunities for taking us back to our true roots. Through the spiritual understanding we are now finding it becomes possible to change our relationships with our early home, mother and siblings. And if we so wish, we can rise above the circumstances that surrounded them and return into the consciousness of our true mother, the Great Mother of all life and our true home, the inner world and the world of spirit.

This progression is about true homecoming – into our inner home – and for re-discovering one’s inner centre. All true strength comes from there because that is our inner connection with God, the source of all life. Part of the process of working our way through to this the inner core of our being is that memories from the past seem to want to overwhelm and haunt us. It may look like this on the surface, but they are not meant to be a nuisance to us. Yet again, this is something that is being given to us for good purpose. The experiences of the past serve no further purpose any more. We need to draw our learning from it, and then bless, heal and forgive ourselves and everything that was in it.

If we make good use of the energy that is available to us now, when this progression is over, we can get on with developing other aspects of our lives, especially the creative ones. Having done the work that is required from us, during this progression, our learning will stand us in good stead for the coming one and also for the rest of this lifetime. When the next progression begins, to our amazement, we may then find that we are coping with our life much better than we ever did before. So, if during this one, our feelings are sometimes threatening to overwhelm us, it is important to remind ourselves that we shall not always be this way and react in this manner. The more we rest safely in the knowledge that things will pass, the greater the ease with which we work our way through them. Instead of suffering from the flood of our feelings, how about tuning into them, working with them and getting some lasting benefits? Only what we seriously work on, becomes rightfully be ours and can be kept forever.

For a better understanding of the energies that are at work in your life during this progression, I recommend the reading of ‘The Sun In Cancer’.

- To be continued. -